Tuesday, 18 December 2012 07:12

How to Move on After Divorce

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Tips to Rebuild Your Life and Your Goals after Divorce contains some good advice. The information there is not really specific to Alabama divorce law. In fact, the article doesn’t really deal with divorce laws at all. Rather, the focus of the article is on how to move on with your life after divorce. And, on that note it is helpful.

Here is a summary of the tips there:

  1. Work through your grief
  2. Recognize your survival mechanisms
  3. Assess your talents
  4. Start living consciously
  5. Write your own story
  6. Develop a project for the future
  7. Plan for obstacles
  8. Deal with the fears
  9. Take incredible care of yourself along the way

Check out the link above to read the details for each step. If you are recently divorced or going through a divorce now, it is worth a read. The last tip is really what the entire article is about: taking care of yourself. When I am helping a client go through an Alabama divorce, I try to urge them to take care of themselves mentally, phyiscally, emotionally and spiritually. Often divorce attorneys are so focused on protecting our clients in their legal case, that it is easy to overlook these equally important issues of their health. So, not only is this a good article for someone going through divorce, it was a good reminder to me, as a divorce lawyer, to not lose site of this important aspect of my client’s life.

Tuesday, 05 May 2009 19:00

Alabama Divorce Statistics

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Alabama ranks high in divorce rates.

According to the U.S. Department of Public Health, Alabama’s divorce rate was 39% higher than the national rate in 2007.

A recent article in the Time Daily, reports that many churches in Alabama are responding by implementing Divorce care programs for their communities. Encouragingly, the article relates that many communities are also responding by implementing programs to strengthen marriage. In my experience as a practicing divorce attorney in Alabama, that is where the focus should be.

I encourage you to read the article.

Tuesday, 18 December 2012 07:10

Alabama Divorce Preparation

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A while back, I wrote a series of articles on Alabama Divorce Preparation. The article explored what someone facing divorce ought to do to best protect themselves under Alabama divorce laws. Recently, I have noticed that many people have been coming to this blog looking for information on Alabama divorce laws, but particularly on preparing for divorce.

For that reason, I thought it would be helpful to direct you to the final article I wrote on Alabama Divorce Preparation. If you visit that page, it will show you each of the 13 Steps I outlined and includes a link so you can get more information for each one. I hope it is helpful to you.

Tuesday, 18 December 2012 07:10

How to Stop Your Divorce

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I read a lot of articles on divorce. I am always tracking what is going on in my field and trying to pass on good information to the readers of my Alabama Family Law Blog. Recently, I have noticed a lot of articles with the headline: How to Stop Your Divorce! I’ve noticed that most of these lead to sites that are selling some product to people facing divorce. Perhaps, some of these products are worthwhile. But, I can’t help but think some of these are simply an attempt to play on the emotions of someone going through one of the worst times of their lives.

The fact is, under Alabama divorce laws, if one of the spouses insists on a divorce, they are going to get it. There is nothing you can do to stop. You can make it take longer, and you can make it cost more money (but why would you want to?), but you can’t stop it. I tell my divorce clients all of the time, “It takes two people to decide to get married, it only takes one to decide to get a divorce.”

Can you try to convince your spouse to reconcile? Of course. Can you try to convince a spouse considering a divorce to not file and give it another chance. Sure. I always encourage reconciliation. And, if you are struggling in your marriage, a good book to take a look at is, The Divorce Lawyer’s Guide to Staying Married. The author is a divorce lawyer and in it, she interviews other divorce lawyers around the country. Because we see so many marriages that end in divorce, divorce attorneys have a unique perspective on the issue.

But, as far as these websites that promise to stop your divorce case, I would just be careful. A few sessions with a qualified marriage counselor or pastor will have a much better chance of being effective than an e-book slapped together by someone trying to capitalize on your desire to avoid divorce.

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